The Grey Havens - Elves: What was the Final Fate of Arwen? Could She have changed her mind and Left Middle-earth?

What was the Final Fate of Arwen? Could She have changed her mind and Left Middle-earth?

From: Erik Tracy

I believe that the situation of Arwen and her choice of becoming mortal can be best explained by Tolkien himself in one of his Letters:

"Elrond chose to be among the Elves. His children- with a renewed Elvish strain, since thier mother was Celebrian dtr. of Galadriel - have to make their choices. Arwen is not a 're-incarnation' of Luthien (that in the view of this mythical history would be impossible, since Luthien has died like a mortal and left the world of time) but a descendant very like her in looks, character, and fate. When she weds Aragorn (whose love-story elsewhere recounted is not here central and only occasionally referred to) she 'makes the choice of Luthien', so the grief at her parting from Elrond is specially poignant. Elrond passes Over Sea. The end of his sons, Elladan and Elrohir, is not told; they delay their choice, and remain for a while."
[The Letters of J.R.R. Tolkien, (#153)]

And from another letter we have the following:

"But the promise made to the Eldar (the High Elves- not to other varieties, they had long before made their irrevocable choice, preferring Middle-earth to paradise) for their sufferings in the struggle with the prime Dark Lord had still to be fulfilled: that they should always be able to leave Middle-earth, if they wished, and pass over Sea to the True West, by the Straight Road, and so come to Eressea - but so pass out of time and history, never to return. The Half-elven, such as Elrond and Arwen, can choose to which kind and fate they shall belong: choose once and for all. Hence the grief at the parting of Elrond and Arwen."
[The Letters of J.R.R. Tolkien, (#154)]

I think that these letters plainly explain that Arwen's choice was made the moment of her parting with Elrond: one can only imagine the conversation subtley hinted at in the Return of the King between Elrond and Arwen. But its import can be gleaned from these letters. The parting would not be as emotional or have the tone of finality if Arwen could have simply changed her mind when Aragorn finally died and hop on the next boat back to daddy.
When Aragorn suggests she recant her choice and go to the Havens, Arwen acknowledges that this is futile:

"Nay, dear lord, she said, that choice is long over. There is now no ship that would bear me hence..."
[The Return of the King, Appendix A]

Together, these lines suggest that Arwen knows her choice was made in the past, and that even if there was a ship it would not carry her, not there were no ships at all, IMHO.

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